She could make harsh comments towards him, but Chandler did that at times towards her as well. But it was never meant to hurt eachother, they weren't the serious type of couple so i don't think it should be taken so serious when it comes to them. And yes no doubt Monica wore the pants in their relationship haha, but that's Monica, and he accepted her for who she was. And Monica accepted Chandler too, his constant sarcastic comments, and his childish behaviour at the beginning of their relationship etc. And like MsChanandlerBong said the fact that she didn't push him at all, since he already was afraid to commit was very understanding of her. I think they fitted eachother perfectly, and learned a lot from eachother. And loved eachother equally in my opinion.

That's it, that is why I love them together, because they fit each other so well!!!

We also have to understand that her personality, her character would be, most part of times, understood as annoying by most people, because she was competitive and controling. But as you said Harmonica, Chandler had flaws as well. That doesn't mean he loved her more or less or the other way around.

Well... Most part of the time I saw Monica as the "male" of the relationship, you know? But I don't think it means she loves him less. And I think she is not the best as showing her soft side because of the inferiority feeling she has when it comes to her parents. Because of that I think she closed herself a little.
And the same goes for Chandler. He had lots of problems with his family too and very different from the one Monica had. So he was more soft and caring because those were things he missed from his parents.

And Chandler has his moments when she is not the best boyfriend/husband in the world too. Like when he smoked just because he was far away from her in Tulsa. I know that if we are going to count her "mistakes" and his, her number would be higher. But I'm only saying that I think she has her reasons to be like she is as much as Chandler has his reasons to be the way he is. Still they both know that it doesn't matter because they understand all that and love each other truly.

Or this won't make any sense for you guys and you'll think I'm just weird.

That made perfect sense to me. I believe they loved each other equally but showed it in different ways.

Yes, it made sense to me too. Thinking about it, Monica and Chandler had traumatizing childhoods, haha.

I agree with Adriane as well. The two of them are really an example that a good relationship is not only based on the soulmate thing, or the fact that it's meant to be, but also that if you want to be in a good, steady relationship, you need to work on it and you need to be flexible enough to accept others with both their flaws and virtues. Both Monica and Chandler were able to do this, mostly because their parents weren't able to afford that to them in their childhoods.

I'm sure she did. She did say some harsh things, and commented on his sexuality, but it was all the writer's fault, for the sake of humor I guess, I still didn't like it tho...(i.e saying things like "I'm not a bride anymore, now I'm just someone's wife" "are yo trying to say we're moving to tulsa ot that you're gay" "that's clearly a joke, this could easily be true(about ross writing that chandler was as gay as the day is long)" That really bothered me. But ignoring all those jokes you could tell she really loved him,I think she even said I love you way more times than he did and most of the times she started the kisses.

I think most of the times she forgot about him or didn't care about his opinion were for humour purposes. They loved each other equally IMO. Also I love how they both don't believe in soul mates but are still so sure of their relationship and the love they share.